How To Get Over Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back

Few things in life are capable of scarring your heart and psyche forever more than a love that is unreturned. When you feel such an immense, overwhelming amount of loving emotion for someone who could never feel the same way about you it pierces you to the very core of your being in a way that no physical wound ever could.

All of those feelings, all of that time and energy spent daydreaming and fantasizing about what could be, resulting in a complete anti-climax. Oh. They don’t feel the same way. It’s as if you’ve reached the end of the rainbow only to find an empty pot – the shell of what might have been.

You’re left with only disappointment and sadness as you dwell on what could have been if only the person of your dreams felt a fraction of what you feel for them.

Although it’s unbearably painful, you will get over unrequited love in time. It takes a lot of changing your attitude and strengthening your mind to get back on your own two feet – especially when it feels like there was never anything there in the first place to get worked up over. It’s as if everything you ever wanted was a pipe dream.

Here are five steps to get over someone who doesn’t love you back:

Accept the reality of your situation

The first step in getting over unrequited love is to accept the way things are.

Accept the fact that you love someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you. Accept that you cannot control how anyone feels about you. Accept the way it makes you feel – depressed, unworthy, unlovable, incapable of being truly happy – or all of these and more. The sooner you accept the way things are both inside your mind and in your external life, the sooner you’ll come to terms with what is and stop thinking about what could have been. This will allow you to move on with your life and your precious love.
Know your worth
It’s important to recognize what a kick-ass person you are. Remind yourself of how brilliant you are, of how much someone who doesn’t recognize all the beauty in you is missing. Be kind to yourself. Forgive yourself if you need to. Remember that life is always a work in progress, and that one day your romantic world will come good. Keep moving forward, and know that you’re as incredible, unique, and totally worthy of love as anyone has ever been.

Focus on yourself

The next step is to work on self-improvement. This isn’t so much to make yourself more attractive to a future partner as it is to boost your own self-esteem and remind yourself just how much you’re capable of if you really try. Work out, pick up new hobbies you’ve been wanting to try, and start living your life for you and you alone. You don’t need anyone to make you complete. You’ve had all that is necessary for completeness within you from the very beginning.

Spend time with those closest to you

The times when you feel lowest and most alone are the times you most need your loved ones close. Take the time and make the effort to really reconnect with the people who mean the most to you. Your friends and family will be with you through thick or thin, and being in their company will help you to see for yourself all of the things that make you so brilliant. You’ll be reminded just how great life can be, and you’ll feel re-energized and ready to move on to better times.

Remind yourself that the right person will see your true value

If a person is right for you, you will both know it. They will see all the beautiful, incredible things that make you you. They’ll know deep down that you’re right for them. If a person doesn’t see your true worth, then they’re not right for you – no matter how much you might feel like they are. You need someone who will recognize you for the amazing person you are.

Getting over someone who doesn’t love you back is one of those things which often goes unnoticed by other people, but cuts just as deep as the loss of any love.

After all, the feelings you have for the person that doesn’t see you in the same light are real. The fact that no one else can see any kind of loss except yourself means that you can feel terribly isolated and alone, but that doesn’t change the fact that how you feel is valid and okay. You’ll be alright in the end – just make sure to remind yourself of that. These things take time, so hang on in there!

What It Feels Like To Be With The Man Of Your Dreams.

True love is out there, and it will come to you when you least expect it. Here are six traits that the man of your dreams will have!

He’ll miss you when you’re gone

The one for you will love nothing more than being in your presence.  He’ll cherish every moment the two of you spend together. When you’re not there with him, it will feel as though he’s lost a part of himself. It will be as though he’s missing an arm.
He’ll do everything he can to spend every waking moment that he can with you, because it’s just too hard being without you. You deserve nothing less than someone who is in love with you that they can’t stand to be without you.

He will keep his promises

You deserve to be with someone with integrity, someone who has his own values, principles, and follows his own moral compass. You deserve someone that is true to his word.

The man of your dreams will be your soulmate. He’ll be your lover, your best friend, and your life partner. His word is his bond. When he makes you a promise, you’ll know for sure that he’ll do everything in his power to keep it. You’ll be able to rely on him, to trust him with your life.

He’ll tell you the truth

There are few things that are certain in life. We live in a world full of lies and deceit. That’s why each person deserves someone in their life who they know would never lie to them. When you finally meet the one for you, he’ll be someone who you can be sure is only ever telling you the truth, no matter how hard it may be.

He’ll love you no matter what

The one for you will love you with every fiber of his being. It won’t matter what happens between the two of you during your time together – because the love he holds for you is unconditional. He’ll hold you tightly during your worst and darkest moments. He’ll love you through the good and the bad. He’ll be there for you because he sees something in you that he doesn’t see in anyone else, and that’s not something that can just change overnight.

He’ll stand up for you

When you finally meet the person that you’re supposed to be with forever, it will be someone who will always have your back. Someone that you can rely on, someone who knows what it means to defend you and is always willing to do what it takes to keep you safe. When you’re with him, you’ll feel like everything is right with the world, because you know that you’re safe in his arms.
He will never betray you

The man of your dreams will put you above everything else in his life. He would never intentionally hurt you. That means no more silly games, no more worrying about what he’s doing at any given moment – you know that he will be good to you and keep your faith for as long as the two of you live. He’ll be the person that you can rely and depend upon.

This person will come into your life one day, no matter how much it may sometimes seem like he doesn’t exist. He’s out there, and he’s searching for you too. Don’t give up!

Strong Women Would Rather Be Alone Than

When a woman is happy being independent, she often earns the admiration of those who know her, male and female alike. Many people can’t understand how anyone can be happy being alone.

There is an overwhelming desire from many women to be in a relationship. This need to be with someone means that some women will settle for anyone that they deem ‘good enough’, and all too often, good enough means not very good at all.

It’s such a shame that so many women place all of their self-worth onto being in a relationship. The fear of being alone is so strong in some people that they feel that their life isn’t worth it unless they have someone by their side. They project all of their happiness and fulfilment onto another person, something that is always guaranteed to result in a bad outcome.

The strongest women are those who are able to find these things within themselves, rather than relying on someone else to provide them. Women like this are happy with their own life, and they don’t need someone by their side just to feel like their lives are worthy of having meaning.

Strong women don’t waste their time on losers because they have high standards.

They’re happy being alone, so if they’re going to be with someone, then they expect them to be worth it.

They won’t settle for someone who won’t treat them properly. They won’t allow a man without their own goals, direction, and independence to have a place in their life.

They expect more of their partner as the bare minimum – meaning they have no time at all for losers who are only interested in using them for sex, housework, and company on their own terms.

They expect a mature relationship consisting of love, trust, and respect.

They value their time and their energy enough to know not to waste it on people that aren’t worth it. They know their worth, and they won’t take sh*t.

Strong women can often intimidate certain men. These men are afraid of fiercely independent women, because they can’t be controlled or kept in line. They don’t like the idea of women being equal with them or strong.

That’s why so many strong women don’t even bother dating. They can’t be bothered to waste their time on people who don’t deserve it. They don’t want to meet up with men who see them as inferior.

They’re happy, they’re satisfied, even if it means being alone. Strong women don’t waste their time on losers because they value their self-worth enough to be independent until they find someone worth their time.

A strong woman knows that the man of her dreams will put her above everything else in her life. That he would never intentionally hurt her. That means no more games, no more worrying about what he’s doing at any given moment –that he will be good to her, respect her, love her and keep her faith for as long as the two of you live. He’ll be the person that you can rely and depend upon. Because you are that strong woman.